Anne: It's lovely to see these faces and I just, again, thank you all for being part of the Platinum membership. We are just always trying to figure out ways to make this so worth your while as a,community and also professionally and personally to all of you here.
So thank you so much for spending a little time with us today. We have been so honored to have Angela Davis Sullivan take care of all of us in the masterminds. She has put her heart and soul into leading the masterminds, creating the content, creating the vibe, all of those things, and trying to do the best we can.
We have done everything. We are always. Tweaking and pivoting. We want this to be for you. we had a year, and I'm looking at Vanessa, thanks for pulling this together. Thanks for getting us to start this, platinum membership with the Masterminds. I feel like it's really been a learning experience for all of us.
And we are pledging to continue to make this just so rich for you and so like a hell yes. going forward. So we wanna give everything that you want out of this. We wanna give that to you, and I know that that's possible. I'm gonna turn this over to the amazing Davis Sullivan.
Angela: no, I'm so glad you guys are here.
thanks for being a,platinum member.
We're so excited and all of our facilitators have worked really hard this year, putting this together as well. So let's get started. We're gonna talk about, reflect, reset, and rise. Three really big words that you could, dissect. And they can probably mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people.
But I'm just gonna share kind of from my. perspective and what I am working on and doing in this last quarter for me and then for a group of friends that I have that were doing this as well as we reflect, reset, and then our goal is to rise in 26 and we want other women to rise with us. And I think that's the most important part for me.
It's like I want to, lift others up. One of my very good friends years ago was at a d Om and she talked about leaving the ladder down, Ms. Theresa Duncan. And that has just resonated with me for,ever since then. Like, who am I helping rise up with us. So that's what we're gonna talk about.
for. Reflect, I don't know about you, but 2025, can you believe we are three weeks from New Year's Eve? Three weeks, 20, 25 is gone. If you don't have it done by now, like I'm not gonna lose that 40 pounds in the next three weeks.
So it's over. Right. And that'll be next year's goal, right? it's coming fast. And I have been tested in my patience, my leadership boundaries, faith in people, in humanity, in relationships. You know, whether that was with wine or with Amazon Prime. You know, I've been tested and I think many of you can relate to that, that we're still trying to figure all of this out and we're still here and we're still showing up and we're trying to give it all to everybody that's in our circle.
And I think we all deserve a standing ovation for that. Doing life sometimes is,is hard enough on a good day, much less when life life's for us. we've had to take care of people in our charge, in our businesses, people around us, personalities, emotions, all the things that not just being a woman is about, but we're trying to reach goals too, and we get knocked down sometimes.
And I don't know about your brain, but I have a really great way, my brain is so helpful in helping me see where I missed things or where I messed up or where something didn't get done to perfection. I mean, my brain is so good at helping me figure that stuff out so quickly that we sometimes forget all the other good stuff that we do.
I wanna take just a second and let's think about the version of yourself that you entered back 11 and a half months ago, January of 2025, when you started the year. If you were anything like me. I was excited. I had some new goals. I had a word for the year. I mean like, let's go. We're doing this. We got it.
Who was that version of yourself that entered in 2025? What were some of the things, and you can put it in chat if you want. What were some of the things that you were excited about in January, February, and March when you started? The year was every, I mean, I was on fire in January. I thought, man, I got this.
This is gonna be a great year. It's gonna be the best year ever. Right? What did that feel like? Remember that excitement? Remember those goals? Remember how you, I journaled, you know, I made achecklist. I'm gonna do this stuff. I'd even, you know, picked a word for the year I was gonna be committed to it.
Those are the things we wanna remember and reflect on. And go those were good things, right? Like, nobody put anything bad that they wanted to have happen when they started their year and want, we wanted all the good things, but then life happens and we kind of can get distracted and off course.
Oh yeah, we got lots of chats. Okay. excited and motivated. Yeah, me too. Ready for action. Oh, look at that. I had to change. Overcome. Oh, I love these. These are so good. Yeah, we all started at a different place, but we, wewanted to be.
Something different, right? We,made a note. We said something like, okay, this is what we're gonna do. So now start thinking about the version of yourself that you want to leave in 2025. What do you wanna leave behind? What are the things you want to leave? So for me, you know, when I started thinking about this and breaking this down and just going, okay, so if I'm gonna go into Ooh, self-doubt, that was mine too.
Yeah. I'm gonna stop doubting myself. I really wanna work on that and go, okay, how could I not doubt every decision, every movement that I make, that I second guess and then back up and then don't do it, and then do it halfway. I mean, it's just a constant battle. Oh, authentic self. I love that, Rachel. Oh, playing small.
That's a good one. Yeah. Why do we do that to ourselves as women? I think women do it more than men, but maybe I'm wrong. But yeah, we play small, we play it safe. I don't wanna do that anymore in 2026. So good overbooked. Oh, no kidding. Yeah. Those are all the things that we can say. So I want you to write those down because that's important for us to look back at and just go, you know what?
You're right. The balcony of my positivity. Yes, Jamie. Very positive. we need to embrace these things. And when I'll go back to my brain because it is really good at telling me I missed. Like that wasn't perfect. That's not good enough. Like we're really good at that. what my brain's not good about, I don't know about yours, is celebrating the wins.
Anybody with me on that? Do we forget to celebrate the wins? Big, small, doesn't matter the size? Are we getting good at that? Why shouldn't we? Why should we not celebrate the wins? Does anybody feel bad when they have wins? oh good lord. It's like shaking her head, heck no. I wanna win.
I wanna win. You know, but we kind of hide it. Each of us, everyone does it a different way. But I,I've been in that spot where we, I'm like,nah, I don't wanna, you know that. Yeah, that's a win, but I'll just keep that to myself. that's too small. Is it really a win? And then our brain doesn't let us, celebrate that.
'cause we can build on that momentum of that success, right? So what are the wins? We minimize them so much typically. think if it was an Olympic sport, I would be a gold medalist in that realm. Just saying, nah, it's not a big deal. Nah, doesn't everybody do that?And I think this is what that community is about, is you have apeople that you can celebrate with who are also proud and excited with you.
And for you to do that, this is a safe spot that you can have the wins and not feel bad about it, or not feel judged. so look at our wins and just go, okay, so if I looked back 11 and a half months, what are my biggest wins? Or what feels like a win? Sometimes that's a win, is setting a boundary.
It could be, hiring or firing somebody that you needed to, choosing yourself over everybody else. Believing in myself. Oh, that's a good one, Anne-Marie. Yeah, I mean, I think a win for me is, you know, on a bad Wednesday when I didn't burn the building down when I really wanted to, I just wanted to burn it down and start over.
But you don't, so that's a win. Sometimes those are win. Changed my career, but still utilizing my dental background. That's fantastic. Oh, hiring a real marketing person. I love that. Escaped the op. It's like an escape room. You need a t-shirt, I got out, I'm free. those are great.
Those are the wins and all the wins count, right? So I like writing things down. I think it's important for my brain to see it in writing to reflect back to it. So if you do it today or later when you look at this, writing down your wins can give you some power. So write down your wins. I love this.
Getting clear on my goals. Boy, that's a tough one sometimes. So what do you want? I don't know. You gotta figure out that piece. You know, Lisa pivoted to more speaker coaching up four not new clients in quarter four. Holy smoke. Congratulations Lisa. That's a win. That is fantastic. See, that's exciting stuff that we should be celebrating individually and then you can celebrate in this group.
But these are the things that we have to remind ourselves that we're doing, that we are winning every day. We've got little wins. Tomorrow's another day we can grow again. Yeah, we get a reset. We have the same amount of hours in the day as everybody else and the days of the week. What are we gonna do to help us have more wins?
Oh yeah. Karen started her traveling, designing businesses from scratch now full time. So I mean, yes, we're doing fun stuff. We're doing cool stuff. These are things that we should be celebrating. So when you look back and some of these things happened in the last half of the year too, I know for some of you, which is amazing, yeah, you still got three weeks go out big.
What is something you've been putting off that you can say, you know what, that's gonna be on my win column before December 31st, three weeks from tomorrow? ' cause the wins matter. love that. Our wins give us momentum and give us power, confidence. Don't you? Do you ever feel like if I get on a streak of wins, like, oh, now I'm feeling really good, got a little more pep in my step, my shoulders are back, my chest is out.
Like, okay, I can do this. But if we don't slow down and celebrate those wins. We're on to beating ourselves up and trying to do the next thing and trying to do the next thing. So really pay attention. Slow down. Take those wins in. Okay. Don't quit. I love that. All right, take a moment now, and I want you to share in the chat one moment you handled differently than the old, you.
So in 2025, I know you did some things differently as we were growing and evolving and learning and doing all those things. So what's something that has happened that you handled differently than the old you would have handled?
Mm. Slowed down. I'm, I'm still working on that one. Accept feedback better and apply it. Oh, that's a good one. Okay. I like that. Yeah. So think about the things that we do. Acted like a boss that owns a business. Good job, Anne. Yeah. Courageous conversations with my spouse. Oh, that's a good one. Oh, Lynn, you got my word in there no more often.
Yep. It was you that told me that no is a complete sentence. I think Lynn did tell me that earlier this year. Guarding my time more carefully instead of running away from speaking opportunities, I leaned into it. Yes. And I heard you speak this year and you nailed it. picked up the phone more often.
These are all things that we can carry into 26 too, that has helped us become better versions of ourself in this year. So we're already making those strides. So we wanna take the good stuff with us, right? I mean, who wouldn't? What do we need to do more of? How do we get better at those things? And
The first step often is naming it or recognizing it, right? If we wanna make a change, if we're oblivious to it or don't own it, it's hard to shift or make a change. So we've gotta own that piece of it. I love that. Anything else anybody wants to share that you handled differently than the old you would have
ask for advice? That's I've gotten better at that and, you know what's really helped me get better with that? This brings up masterminds because we were able to be in those groups and ask questions and pick somebody's brain and run scenarios with people. And before I would've never. Maybe never is a big word, but, you know, I would not have just picked up the phone and said, let me go, lemme call her real quick and ask.
But when we had that time dedicated for that, it was super easy to say, Hey, what do you think about that? Am I on the right track? Or what have you done in the past? So I love that. That was, that's a really big one because sometimes I think it's hard to look,look for help and know who to trust and to be vulnerable enough to say, I don't have it all together.
I'm still learning and growing myself, and what do I need to do different? how can me asking this question make me better? So I love that. Trusted myself more stood up for my own thoughts or ideas. I mean, those are all fantastic. I love that. Okay. All right. So these lessons, let's call 'em, give us information that we're able to, to take in and learn and use, to get better.
Here's the thing. I don't know about you, but all these things were talking to us, right? Like they're telling us these were wins that we had and here's how we did it. But are we paying attention? Did we listen to what the world is telling us? Did we listen? Are we really paying attention to that? And if we are listening and paying attention, then we know We don't have to do that again. We can move forward and go, okay, I'm not gonna do that again. 'cause here's how I, I know how to do it better. here's what I can do better. The lessons that we want to take with us. We need to pay attention to it. We've got to name it, notice it, and figure out how do we do that?
Again, how do I put that on repeat? And if we made bad choices or didn't have some wins and failures, we also know how not to do that. Again,We can make these things possible if we listen. I'm a big believer of, success leaves clues, and it's telling us what to do and we just have to pay attention to it.
I'll tell you a funny story about,the word success. Very early in my speaking career, I made a huge mistake. I was speaking to a group of doctors. There's probably about, 25 people in there and we were talking. so every time I say success, I get nervous. And you'll see why in a second.
I was talking about scheduling for success. Easy, right? And I said, you've got to schedule for sex. I turned blood red. I wanted to crawl under the table. Fortunately it was a good group of doctors and I had some laughs right away and one guy was like, you're right Angela. I do need to get that on my schedule.
And I was able to overcome that and get past it. Now, I didn't talk about it for a long time 'cause I was still so mortified. But at least now I can talk about it and laugh and just go, okay, that was a good learning opportunity for sure. so every time I say success, you'll notice I try to pause and pay really close attention to what I'm saying.
I don't wanna mess that up, that I'm not opposed to scheduling sex, but just that's not what we were talking about at the time, just so you know. All right, back on track here. So when we start talking about our lessons and what do we learn and what we can do better, we wanna make sure that we're taking notice of that.
So what's one mistake that you will not? Oh, alternative cardio. Yes. One mistake I will not repeat in 2026 is what? What's one mistake you will not repeat in 26?
I could have a list, but, so you think about the things, what are the things that get in your way? Ooh, company before my family. That's a good one. What are the things that distract you? What are the things that are in your way of success? What are the lessons that you've learned this year that you're not going to, not gonna do?
Oh, pretending I don't hurt. Trusting the wrong person, not finishing my book, selling myself. Short. Good one. Fear driving decisions. Oh, that's a good one. I'm done apologizing for being the boss. Oh my gosh. I think we should put that on a t-shirt. that's a good one.
Quick judgment. Yeah. So we have lots of things that we're committed to. We don't wanna do 'em. So what are you gonna do different? So you don't do those things. write this down, pay attention to it and say, no, I'm not doing that again. I already said I was not doing that in 2026. So don't do it. Exercise takes priority.
Procrastinating.
Uh, I love that. Yeah. So we know what we want and it's okay to know what we want. Now we have to own it. So write it down and say, okay, next time something happens, these are the things I'm not going to do. I don't wanna do this again. I don't wanna be here again. Oh, not being my own biggest cheerleader. Why do we do that?
Why are we afraid to toot our own horn and celebrate us? We've got to get better at that. I will be your cheerleader, Vanessa. I think you're pretty awesome. So, yeah, I mean, these are the things we know what we, what we wanna stop doing. So those are your not repeating in 26. They're right here. We've got 'em saved.
So if you forget, we're gonna send it to you. If I see any of this, we've got to stop that. The negative self-talk. Yeah, we know how detrimental that is. If you were at the retreat and you heard Robin Ramirez, those conversations, the one that we have in our head is one of the biggest conversations we have, and that negative self-talk will destroy you.
That's what we wanna make sure we're not doing. Boundaries. Raise your hand if you're really good at setting boundaries. I'm not. I don't know why I had my hand up. Oh, y'all are ama, Sandra. Of course you're good. Haney. Yeah. I admire that. I admire that. I want you to think about what boundary, do you wish you enforced sooner?
If you've got some boundaries share your boundaries in here. I wanna see what some boundaries are. I need some help with boundaries. I did learn, I, I think Lynn, it must have been from you this year that no is a complete sentence, number one. So I'm using that now and it's okay to say no. I don't have to say yes to everything.
I don't have to be at every thing that's happening. Work life balance. Be more protective of my time. Time is not unlimited. You are right. Negative and gossiping people. Oh, that's a good one too. Yeah. you know, what are those boundaries? How do we, set 'em and keep 'em? Because I can say all day long, I'm not gonna do that.
But it's really hard to commit to, it's been hard for me to follow through with that when people are coming at me. So I don't schedule my evenings with work. That's nice too. I will tell you what I have done in the last quarter. I have my phone set on do not disturb from 6:00 PM to 7:00 AM So unless it's an emergency or you're in my favorites, I don't get it.
That was a huge commitment. Turning off is off. I love that. Turn it off and then it goes off on Friday night and it doesn't come back on until sMonday morning at seven. I'm not checking emails on Saturdays anymore. Can't do that. The other thing that I've done. was I took, Facebook and Instagram off of my phone, so I had to be sitting at my computer to get on Facebook or Instagram.
And then I put it back on my phone, but I'm gonna go back to taking it off my phone because I really wanna stick to that. So yeah, we take, you know, two steps forward, one step back, but those are gonna be boundaries for me because yeah, I mean, golly, you look at one thing and then an hour later I have not moved and I'm still sitting there scrolling, having a great time.
Or am I, I don't know. I mean, sometimes it's good, sometimes it's, you know, those other things come up. Am I jealous? Am I feeling less worthy because of something else that, you know, somebody has or is doing? All those kind of things. it's a piece that I'm working on for that boundary for me. So know what your boundaries are.
Set that boundary. Now, what was one thing that drained your energy the most in 2025? What was your energy sucker?
What took your energy?
These are the lessons that we're learning. It's leaving us clues. Worry sucks your energy. Yeah. Too much work and not enough play. No kidding. We gotta schedule that. Increasing my marketing reach. Yeah. Things that drain our energy,
drain everything else as well. I don't know if you're anything like me, but I, will give to everybody else and my cup is empty and the people closest to me get the worst of me. Has been in the past. I have been much better this year especially, and I hope to be even better next year in that, that journey as well.
Yes, Kelly, you had an exciting summer there getting hit by a motorcycle in that market. Yeah. things that drain our energy do not serve us. And when we look at all these things, the mistake that we don't wanna repeat the boundary that we wish we would've enforced sooner, and the one we need to continue to honor or add, things that drain our energy that we wanna move away from.
Awareness is the beginning of discipline. So just by being aware of it is that first step of knowing, okay, I gotta pay attention to this, I've gotta make a change, I've gotta do something different so that you can name it is huge. let's just name it, what are those things? Make your list and go.
Okay. Got it. Now, what am I gonna do about it? What could I do different?
What am I willing to do different? That might be the better question, right? Like, yeah, it bothers me. Yeah, I don't wanna do it. But how, how uncomfortable do we wanna be to have the change? you know, it's funny when I'm coaching clients, sometimesand they say a goal, I'm like, okay, great.
Well, how committed are you to it? On a scale of one to 10? Oh, they're, oh yeah, I want that. That's a 10. Okay, great. What are you willing to do different? Are you gonna do this, this, and this? I don't know about all that. Right? You guys ever feel like that? Like, oh yeah, I want it badly. Oh, but you mean I have to what?
Give up something else. Oh, I don't know. Maybe I don't want it that bad. So decide what you want and how bad you want it. What are you willing to do to get there, to make it happen? I think that's the hardest part. Like, a lot of times I feel like we know what to do, but we don't take action.
We get stuck or we get scared, or we get self-doubt. All the things that we've talked about, come fuller than our desire to do something different, which is why we need a strong, network of people who believe in us too, and are on that same journey and support you and wantto do the same things.
That's us. That's what we're doing. All right. there's at least probably one thing that you already know, but you avoid it because it makes you feel uncomfortable or you get emotional about it, or it's inconvenient. It could be a person, a conversation, a version of yourself that you've outgrown, you know, a circle or, or that kind of thing.
But. The truth that we're avoiding is where that growth is gonna come into play, right? So the longer you avoid something and we know this, does it get easier or harder? Harder. It doesn't get any easier. The longer we drag it out and just keep, you know, waiting and hoping. You know, I live on a wing and a prayer.
Certainly it'll get better, right? If I do nothing, it's just magically gonna get better. But we know that's not true. So I want you to think about one uncomfortable truth that you've been avoiding this year. and you don't have to share this if you don't want to, but I want you to just take a minute and really think about that.
Come up with your one uncomfortable truth from 2025.
It hurts. I don't like to think about it. Still sitting there. What's my uncomfortable truth that I've been avoiding?
And now ask yourself this. The hard decision I already know I need to make is what?
Yes. It makes it worse when we avoid 'em. So if we're gonna rise up in the next year, what's the hard decision? You already know you need to make, you don't have to say it out loud. You don't have to write it in the chat unless you want to, but write it down for yourself. Make a note about that.
Really think about it.
We already know it's hard, but you know, you need to make it.
And remember, we can do hard things, We can do hard things, okay? Remember this, comfort is addictive. Everybody likes that warm, comfortable place, right? And growth is uncomfortable. We know that too. choose your hard, You wanna grow, you wanna stay in that comfort, in that addictive comfort place.
So choose your hard. All right, so we have reflected. Now let's reset. So what does reset mean? Look, I cannot swim to the top of the pool if I still have the weights around my ankles, and I'm in eight feet of water, right? I can't get to the top. It's not gonna be easy. I'm gonna run outta air. It's not gonna be fun.
I'm gonna be trying to pull things off while I'm already underwater. The same thing is true here. We cannot rise while we're holding things that are heavy. So we've gotta get rid of some stuff. We've gotta make better decisions. We've gotta release some stuff if we're going to reset so that we can rise.
So think about it as, you're deep clean. I'm gonna deep clean the house today and get rid of all that stuff. What's the clutter that's my mind? Sometimes it can be in your area. I don't know about you, but I cannot work if my desk is not clean and organized. I've gotta clean all that off so that I can focus on what I need to do.
So what's some of that clutter that we need to let go of as we reset? Think about and it should be on your worksheet too, a habit, a belief, a person or energy, a broken system. So what are the things that you're doing every day? Life, family, relationships, that kind of stuff that could be broken or a big distraction.
What are the things that you need to release in 2026 if you're gonna reset? Pick a habit, a belief, a person, a system, a distraction. And you can share those in the chat if you like. oh, I like that. That I can do it all. Yeah, you're one person. I mean, we're pretty awesome.
We're pretty super women. I know. We think we can do it all. A habit, a belief, you know, for me, look, my habit is right here. I'm gonna show you. This is my secret. Any guesses and what's in it? I'm in the south sweet tea. It is sweet tea. I drink it a lot. I drink that big thing every day and it's terrible.
It's full of sugar. I know that. Yeah. Jamie knows it's my sweet tea. I've got break that habit. What it's important to me. It's becoming more and more important. So those are the things that, you know, that's just one habit. Is that gonna make me a better, wife? I believe it will. ' cause then I won't be complaining about why I am drinking all this sugar and why I'm still gaining weight.
Right. I think it will. Is it gonna help my business? Yes. Because I'll be more confident. I've gotta find the habits and the belief, like belief in myself. So what do I have to reset?
Do I have a person or an energy in my life that. I need to kind of separate myself from Are there some things outta whack that I need to,work on so that I can reset and prepared to rise? Yeah. Do I have distractions? Yeah. That's why I'm taking social media back off my phone. I'm gonna do that today.
And pay attention to the things that are gonna help me get where I want to go in 2026. So I've gotta let go of some of these things. Jamie brought up that book, the Let Them Theory, which I do love that book, and started reading it last month. And I like let them. And the other piece of that, if you haven't read that book, is let me, and I really have leaned in to let me, and it's been eye-opening so everybody got a habit or a belief, stressing over things.
I can't. control, let things flow the way they're meant to be. a habit, a belief. What, what are the things that are holding you back? A distraction, something that's broken that you're working around? the exercise in the afternoon. My system is broken. Yeah.
I'm with you, Anne. I say I'll do it this afternoon. It doesn't happen. Yeah. You know, just like my sweet tea, like, yeah. I do have just one now, but yeah. What are those things that we know we need to release before we go into 26? Habits, beliefs, person, distractions. So when you look excuses, Ooh, that's a good one.
I can whip out some excuses real quick. So when you look at those for yourself, take a look at your list. What'd you write down? I want you to make a star or circle the one that scares you the most. Oh, I think I can do it better. Micromanaging,
avoiding basic tasks. Take very little time, but lingers on my head and builds up. Yep. I worked myself up for so little, took so much time giving away everything for free. Oh my gosh, yes. It doesn't have to be perfect. Yeah. These are the things that we know that we need to give up. We can't do it. So when you look at those, which one scares you the most and just make a note of it and just know that that's your biggest growth opportunity right there.
To look at 'em again
and say, okay, yep. That one is pretty scary. 'cause I don't know how I'm gonna do that. That's my biggest growth opportunity right there. So know that as you're, as you're resetting, look, resetting doesn't mean you have to burn it all down and start over, right? it really doesn't. For me, when I started thinking about this, for what this would mean for me and, uh, group of girlfriends that, we kind of did this worksheet together as we were thinking about, you know, what's gonna be different in 26 for us?
What do we want it to look like? What do we want to have happen? What do we really wanna let go of? You know, how are we gonna reset this kind of stuff? What does that mean? And I came up with the reset for me means raisingraising my standards. Like, okay, what's that mean? Better food, better choices, better friends, better circles, better expectations of myself and others.
I mean, so I just really just started breaking that down and goes, okay, so how can I raise my standards? What does that mean? What's that gonna do? How do I choose better for myself? So I don't think it's about needing a lot of times, yeah, I need some more tools sometimes, but sometimes we have everything we need right there.
We just don't allow it in our circle, So if I raise my standard of myself and the things I choose to do, then that's how I'm resetting. So I'm raising that standard. You know, reset for you might mean something a little different. If somebody has something, I'd love to hear it, that, you know, what does reset mean for you?
And sometimes it, I, I mean, maybe you do have to burn it down to start over. Everybody's in a different spot. But for me, when I thought about it and kind of came up with it, I was like, yeah, I just need to raise my standards, finding peace with my decisions. Oh, peace is such a good word. How do we find that peace and be okay with it?
In the midst of chaos often, right? It's the craziness around us or people coming at you all the time. Done is better than perfect. Oh, I love that, Sandra. That's good. Finding peace with my decisions. Leaving this quiet house and living my van life dreams. I like that. That's adventurous. I could never do that, but, you know.
So what does that reset look like for you? What do you need to do different? How are you gonna do different? so for me it was just higher standards for what I allow in my circle. So you've got your workbook. So think for a second and just go, my personal standard for success is now what?
My new boundary is, my non-negotiable is I learned non-negotiables this year as well, and I know I'm probably behind the times from many of you, but like I said, I learned no this year and I learned non-negotiables this year. Right? Negativity within my inner circle of friends. Man, that's a good one.
Yeah. Love these people, but I can't be around them. Sometimes it's family, right? What's my personal standard for success? treat my business like a business. Am I ready? Here's my new boundary. What's my non-negotiable look? Non-negotiables your personal standard for success, you know, what does that mean?
That's who I choose to do business with. What I say yes to, my yeses are on purpose now. It's with intention. trying to choose wisely, setting boundaries with my time. Oh gosh. I think it was Mary who said, you know, time is not
Anne: unlimited.
Angela: Yeah. I mean, we don't have all of it. And time matters.
It's, we gotta pay attention to that. So what does that boundary need to be for us to have that success? What does that mean? Non-negotiables, boundaries where I would set my phone so that it, I don't get those interruptions. So you don't hear that. Ding. It's on silent. I turn it upside down.
Walk away. It'll be fine. this year, especially in the last six months, I set some, pretty big non-negotiables. I felt like for me, when I am home in town on Fridays, I don't schedule anything between eight and 10:00 AM I take my daddy to breakfast every Friday if I'm in town
That's non-negotiable for me. If I'm in town on Sundays, I take my daddy to church every Sunday. Those are non-negotiables. Good weather, bad weather, other things could pop up easily. But those are mine. Those are non-negotiables. watching Jeopardy with my husband every night.
I love that. Yeah. Non-negotiable. Hot girl walk every day. We have to have those. ' cause if we don't, life happens and we're, we're distracted, something else pops up. We're doing a million other things and it's really hard. Oh. Work out every day with your husband. That's nice. Eight to 10. what I've learned, I can just tell you what I've learned when I honor those non-negotiables and I set those boundaries, it actually fills me up, gives me more energy, and I have more to give. I'm better because of those things. And I wanna have more of those things in 26.
I don't know about you, but friendships, which are easy 'cause I can pick up the phone and call somebody and we haven't spoken in months and it's good. But I need those times with those friends. But if we don't schedule that lunch that weekend, it doesn't happen. And then it's two years, it's three years, and it's like, really?
We haven't done that in forever. And so I wanna have more of those on my calendar for next year time with people who do, gimme good energy, build me up, make me feel good, get that negative self-talk out of my head. So those are all the things. So just know and take a minute. What is your personal standard?
What's your boundary? What's your non-negotiables? If nothing changes next year, it will not be because you didn't know what to do, it's because you didn't do what you knew you should have done. So next year at this time, if we're talking and go, Hey, how'd it go? And you didn't, it's because you didn't do what you knew you should have.
if you're anything like me, we've gotta remind ourselves of this, right? Cause we say it in January. I mean, I've started January when we talked about that in the beginning too, I was excited, ready to go. I had a word for the year, you know, maybe you had some, set some goals and that stuff. And it was about August and I was on with the friend and she goes, oh hey, what was your word this year?
Because we always do it. And I went, you know what? Crap, what was my word? I had forgotten my flipping word. How sad is that? So I had to go find it on my notes, write it down, put it in here in front of my computer, and go, okay, yeah, my,I got it. Now I remember. I got my word. So yeah, we've got to make sure that we're doing things that help bring us back to center because it's easy to get off track and go with those distractions to go with what's happening right now and just.
Get excited and say yes to something, you know, you should have said no to. You break a boundary and then you regret it. So we've gotta have those moments to come back to reset. Reset so we can, rise after that.
we've gotta help hold each other accountable, revisit these notes and go, okay, what was my boundary? What was my standard, what were my non-negotiables? And keep bringing yourself back to that.
All right, so now we have reflected, we're resetting now we're gonna rise. So who are you becoming in 2026? I don't wanna step into 26, exhausted, overwhelmed, feel like I'm treading water. How am I gonna start?
What am I gonna do? My goal, is to step in as confident, a strong leader invested in my growth and those around me. And I wanna step in in peace and I'm not gonna apologize for being ambitious. That's me. That's how I am committed to stepping into and rising in 2026. A woman of action. No more shallow words.
I love that. So you've got an opportunity there. Write down, think about this for a minute. I'm becoming a woman. Who, what? I'm becoming a woman who, what? What do you wanna walk into? In 26, I lead confidently. Um, we talked about delegation, protects her peace, learns to say no. Paid her value. Flourishes confident in myself.
Now what do I wanna walk into?
What's possible for me in 26? Loves my body. No more body shaming. Oh my gosh. I should write that one down too. Yeah, that's a good one. Learns to live with less. I love that. Influential. Yes. Kelly, that's you. I love this. Yeah. This is how we rise. We don't have to start the year already exhausted before it gets here.
Leads with spirit and grace and strength. I love that. Yeah.
And maybe you don't know your answer right now, and that's okay too. That's okay. Keep this and come back to it and go, what do I wanna go into 26 thinking and doing? What would I have to do different? So it's not, you know, goals per se. It's like, what do I just wanna walk into? What do I wanna be proud of?
What do I wanna do? Okay, now what are your, I want you to try to write down your top three power moves. Not like 20 different goals and dreams and all that. Just three things, real tangible moves that you can rise to.
What do you wanna rise to in 26?
first quarter, right? What's three rise moves that you could do in that first quarter? I love that. Stop comparing my journey to others. That is so true. Hard to do. Sometimes I get it really hard to do sometimes, but you're, we're all on our own little path. We're moving forward.
So if you had to think of rise moves for yourself, how are you gonna rise in 26? What are things that come to mind for you? Uh, relationships are everything called. Oh, I love that. 17 minutes of writing daily I did start journaling in 25 too. I was on off, on off. I'm much better when I'm on. I need to bring that back, knock it out of the park at midwinter on my two programs. I have a mindset to do that. Yes. Kelly's at Midwinter. we're excited. I know you're gonna knock it outta the park.
There's three things, three power moves that you could do. Springboard your first quarter so that when we're in masterminds and talking about this stuff, we can say, what's your power move? What are you doing? What's your rise move? Loving who I am, staying focused on family. Love that rise earlier.
Yeah. You and me both. Jamie.
I love that. Okay, now put a date by 'em. Take those three and put a date by it. When are you gonna start? This is your commitment to yourself.
You got three weeks left in this year. You could start early, you could start January 1st. It's your rise move. You pick it. When do you wanna start moving in that direction? So don't be afraid to go back to this and look at it and make sure that I've reflected on what I've done.
Here's how I'm resetting. If not now when? No kidding. Yeah. Here's how I'm resetting. If I need to move out, habits, I need to break, get rid of, and then here's how I'm gonna rise. Here's my action step. That's your commitment to yourself. And if you need a buddy, get a buddy to, to share that with and help check in on each other as you're moving forward.
we weren't meant to be alone in any of these journeys, so why not bring a friend with you, something that's gonna help inspire you and pick you up, when you don't feel like doing it. don't have to enter 26, the same person we were in 25. if we think about all the things we learned, remember what we learned and our wins, I'm certainly wiser than I was in January of 2025.
I'm stronger. I'm getting clearer, right? I'm not gonna let 26 own me. I'm gonna get the best of 26. that's my little mantra that I kind of wrote down for myself. These are the things that separate, people who get everything they want and deserve, and people who just coast
What are we willing to do differently? How are we gonna end it? How do we wanna live and show up and lead and, and give back? And, you know, what is it that feeds your soul that you can, tap into that gives you energy, helps you be a better person all the way around. And the good news is we're not behind.
we're in process, right? We are becoming, and this is just where the story starts getting good, right? This is where we get excited about stuff. I mean, I may be in my fifties, but it ain't over yet. I still got a lot of stuff I wanna do and impact I wanna have on, people that I already know and people I haven't even met yet.
And then especially, my family and my daughter. I mean, I think that's been a big motivator for me this year is to, be that example. And she's gonna be doing this later this weekend. She just doesn't know it yet. I'm sure she's gonna love it, but I think it'll be good as a, a woman, a young woman in dentistry starting her, her life and her career I wish I would've done this when I was in my twenties.
I wish that there would've been that kind of influence in my life that would've said, you know. You should probably write goals down and you should probably journal and you should, reflect and reset and rise and learn how to do those things. so this is our opportunity to really take it to that next level.
And I hope that you look at this and can use it as you, move through these next three weeks and get ready to,start the new year that you've got a plan and that you're ready to take on 2026. Do as a big movement and look out. I mean, you thought that last retreat was good. Imagine all of us rising when we get there in 26.
Look out Anne, who knows what's gonna be there. It's gonna be amazing. So thank you for your,time. I hope you had some good takeaways from this. thank you for trusting me to do this with you guys. I love it. I'm so proud of all of you and getting to know all of you even a little bit more. You guys are the best.
Anne: Angela, thank you so much. This is so loving for all of us. You have really taken good care of us this year, and I'm thrilled that you've taken on the Mastermind's coming up in 26. this is a document I think that we can not only share, with ourselves during the year, but with, you know, our loved ones.
I love that you're sharing it with your daughter but we have what we have, ladies. That's right. This is, we have something really special here and beyond. And it's, our goal is to have, what we have here, to grow, to rise, to reset, and to share it with others.
And we will continue to make a big impact, not only in dentistry, but on the world. So I just thank you all so much. This is just beautiful. I wish everybody a merry Christmas, a happy new Year. This was a gift. It was a true gift for all of us to have this time.
So thank you. let's not forget this moment in time, ladies. Alright.
Angela: Absolutely. Hey, we're super excited about masterminds for 2026. You should be getting something in the next couple days where you can, sign up and we've got our facilitators ready to go. And we keep evolving and try to make it better and better.
And we thank you for doing the surveys and giving us feedback. We want you to get, good stuff out of it. We're gonna do it a little bit different. Vanessa's asking for a little tease. How about I say it's gonna be a little bit different model. A different way to, to sign upand, gonna have a big impact.
We're doing six month chunks, so we'll go January through June. And then you'll be with that same group for six months with your facilitator, and then July through December, we'll mix it up again and do it that way. So we are super excited about what you guys are gonna see. I'm excited about it.
I know you guys will be too when you hear it.
Anne: we came together and we really want it to be so impactful for all of you. And, I think you're gonna love some of the changes, but just know that it's all for you and we're always gonna be here for you. And again, thank you for all of you that facilitated.
We wanna thank our leader, our mastermind leader. They put their heart and soul, and that's a big job. And I wanna give everybody a yesthank you hand for that. And again, an thanks for leading the way.
you know, just keep on growing, evolving, and, changing the world. All right, everybody. Angela
Angela: parting words,Just merry Christmas. And if I can do anything to help you or you wanna talk or brainstorm or, connect in any way, reach out to me. I'm happy to jump on a call with, anyone.
Thank you guys.
Anne: Thanks everybody for joining us today. I appreciate all of you. I'm so grateful. have a wonderful, wonderful holiday season. Happy,
